Weddings are supposed to be about the people that you love, your family and friends, coming together to celebrate your special day. And with that also comes the chaos, tension, busy-ness, and drama that seemed to be attached to a wedding preparation. But amidst all these chaotic, nail-biting, hair-rising, mind-numbing craziness, at the end of the day you could still feel the love and care that are shown to you by the people that matters to you and made your special day a success.Well, that just about describes my sister's wedding. In the end it all turned out well, alhamdulillah. More than just well, actually. It was a beautiful day, filled with love and happiness and some funny moments too. I hope it will be a day that the newly weds will cherish forever...
Weddings as some of you may know are stressfull. Honestly. The wedding preparations alone can give you stomach ulcers. And being born a Malay doesn't help either. Don't get me wrong, I am proud to be a Malay, rich in culture and traditions, but sometimes they can be a tad overwhelming especially when it comes to weddings or to be precise the process of getting married. There are also those authoritive, "I have eaten salt earlier than you..." elders that you feel are a bit intrusive and that you just can't say no to but deep inside you know that they do mean well. But no matter what, I am glad that they are there to give advice and wisdom to us, the young and inexperienced lot, to be passed on to the next generation. Without them we ceased to exist. Since we were small we were taught to respect the elders and to honour our culture and tradition as long as it doesn't go against the religion. And basically that was what I kept reminding myself of whenever I felt that I was going bonkers. Just a couple of deep breaths, some time out and then I am good to go. Lucky thing I didn't develop a post-wedding over-inflated lung syndrome, heheh...
And on top of that, I also had to deal with the one question that seems to pop up whenever we have any family gatherings or functions, especially weddings. Yup, it's the famous "So, when is it going to be your turn, my dear?"... Seriously, nothing else to ask is it? Hmm... Funny thing is, it always comes after the how are you greetings, and then BOOM!! Honestly, by the end of the day I really sounded like a broken record machine/cassette player/scratched cd when it comes to answering that particular question. Guess I should have taken a friend's advice to record a standard answer and just play it back whenever anyone asks me that question. Silly me...
Anyways, to my dear sister, Congratulations! I am really happy for you and glad that you have found someone that you are willing to spend the rest of your life with. For all my siblings, I wish you all a happy and blessed life with your families. Treasure your loved ones and live your life to the fullest. This also goes out to my friends and to all of you out there. You only have one shot at living and make sure that it is worth your while. And to you guys whom are tying the knot soon, Congratulations and Best of Luck!
2 comments:
...those authoritive, "I have eaten salt earlier than you..." elders...
Is it any wonder hypertension is a problem in our community? The pride they take in sodium consumption ... tsk tsk.
As per the nosy query, I am so tempted to tell them that I'm gay, but then, they'd probably tell me a good man will sort me out sexually as well (in more ways than one, honey!). It's kinda like a crime to not be partnered, no? I haven't got any wedding invites yet this year that may necessitate me grabbing my cousin as a shield, but hope floats (not).
All those cultural details can be utterly maddening. Just remember to not be a bridezilla when your number goes up, okay?
Hah snuze, I was tempted to tell them that too! But you know what, I think some of them may have some doubts when it comes to my sexual preference, though it's kind of difficult to explain to them why am I still single at my age. What am I to say? That I'm waiting to meet my soulmate, friend, lover and partner; that as yet there are no marriage proposals that are worth accepting; or basically the world has run out of decent single guys that can tolerate my s**t?! Yeah right, they'd be jumping at my throat with "You should be realistic and settle down soon before it's too late to start a family..." Like I don't know that already, hello!! Urghh, thanks but no thanks.
The truth is, what I wrote was just the tip of the iceberg. I didn't know how I managed to just smile but inside I was simmering with annoyance and anger. Thank God for head coverings, else my flaming red ears are enough to make them call the fire department ASAP!
And as for the wedding invites, don't even get me started. As bad as it is being the oldest yet still unmarried daughter, it's even worse being the eldest grandchild attending and partly organizing your much younger cousins' weddings. And you know what, at the rate I'm going, I don't think I'll ever get the chance to be a bridezilla much less a bride. So, no worries there, the world will be safe from crazy me, at least for now... :D
Post a Comment